When young, we’re anxious – understandably – to find out if we’ve got what it takes. Can we succeed? Can we build a viable life for ourselves? But you – in particular you, of this generation – may have noticed a certain cyclical quality to ambition. You do well in high-school, in hopes of getting into a good college, so you can do well in the good college, in the hopes of getting a good job, so you can do well in the good job so you can….
And this is actually O.K. If we’re going to become kinder, that process has to include taking ourselves seriously – as doers, as accomplishers, as dreamers. We have to do that, to be our best selves.
Still, accomplishment is unreliable. “Succeeding,” whatever that might mean to you, is hard, and the need to do so constantly renews itself (success is like a mountain that keeps growing ahead of you as you hike it), and there’s the very real danger that “succeeding” will take up your whole life, while the big questions go untended." George Saunders
isn’t it weird how with some people you never run out of things to talk about but with others it’s like you always end up talking about the weather
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like 98% of my problems would be solved if i stopped overthinking things and calmed the fuck down and stopped being such a panicky, anxious little shit
Beiber tweets “frog lawn mower” and gets 100k+ retweets.
Julian Assange published a PSA about “secret wars” and “espionage” and gets less than 100 retweets.
Something is horribly wrong with “democracy”.
It’s taboo to admit that you’re lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven’t left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. Ha ha, funny. But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you’re not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are.
A part of you knew this was going to happen. Growing up, you just had this feeling that you wouldn’t transition well to adult life, that you’d fall right through the cracks. And look at you now. La di da, it’s happening.
Your mother, your father, your grandparents: they all look at you like you’re some prized jewel and they tell you over and over again just how lucky you are to be young and have your whole life ahead of you. “Getting old ain’t for sissies,” your father tells you wearily.
You wish they’d stop saying these things to you because all it does is fill you with guilt and panic. All it does is remind you of how much you’re not taking advantage of your youth.
You want to kiss all kinds of different people, you want to wake up in a stranger’s bed maybe once or twice just to see if it feels good to feel nothing, you want to have a group of friends that feels like a tribe, a bonafide family. You want to go from one place to the next constantly and have your weekends feel like one long epic day. You want to dance to stupid music in your stupid room and have a nice job that doesn’t get in the way of living your life too much. You want to be less scared, less anxious, and more willing. Because if you’re closed off now, you can only imagine what you’ll be like later.
Every day you vow to change some aspect of your life and every day you fail. At this point, you’re starting to question your own power as a human being. As of right now, your fears have you beat. They’re the ones that are holding your twenties hostage.
Stop thinking that everyone is having more sex than you, that everyone has more friends than you, that everyone out is having more fun than you. Not because it’s not true (it might be!) but because that kind of thinking leaves you frozen. You’ve already spent enough time feeling like you’re stuck, like you’re watching your life fall through you like a fast dissolve and you’re unable to hold on to anything.
I don’t know if you ever get better. I don’t know if a person can just wake up one day and decide to be an active participant in their life. I’d like to think so. I’d like to think that people get better each and every day but that’s not really true. People get worse and it’s their stories that end up getting forgotten because we can’t stand an unhappy ending. The sick have to get better. Our normalcy depends upon it.
You have to value yourself. You have to want great things for your life. This sort of shit doesn’t happen overnight but it can and will happen if you want it.
Do you want it bad enough? Does the fear of being filled with regret in your thirties trump your fear of living today?
We shall see." You’re Not Making The Most Of Your 20s by Ryan O’Connell (via beautifulanonymous)
writing is safer, somehow
because my pen cannot stutter like my lips do,
and words get stuck in throats,
not fingertips, can’t stumble
on paper trails of blue lines
because writing is definite and clear
and no one can tell if i am crying
through written words alone
Tim McGraw feat. Taylor Swift | Highway Don’t Care- 523 plays
Imagine a wall full of circular holes, that circles can keep walking in and out of with no difficulty.
Now imagine that the triangles manage to get the resources together, after years of not being able to fit through the circle’s holes, to drill a single triangle space into the wall.
Now imagine that the circle — who previously supported the triangle’s efforts because they are well-rounded (har) and value equality — comes along and sees the construction project. But instead of being happy, they get angry.
“Well, I won’t be able to fit through your hole!!!!” the circle cries.
“I helped you get the drill!!!!” the circle shrieks.
“Make it fit me too!!!!” the circle demands.
The triangles, barely holding it together enough to get a triangle hole together, stare at the circle in confusion.
“You have all the holes you need,” the triangles explain. “This is for us. You don’t need to fit through our hole, too.”
“YOU’RE BEING UNEQUAL AND HURTING MY FEELINGS!” the circle wails. “I DON’T SUPPORT YOUR HOLE IF IT DOESN’T FIT ME TOO. GIVE ME MY DRILL BACK.”
“It’s not your drill, it’s our drill. You helped us get it, because you said you cared.”
“I ONLY CARED WHEN I THOUGHT YOU’D MAKE A HOLE EVERYONE COULD FIT THROUGH. YOU’RE PERPETUATING INEQUALITY!!!”
“Why is it up to us, the small group that has never been able to fit through the wall at all, to make a hole everyone can use? Why isn’t it up to you, the people who have been able to cross back and forth at will for years? We just want to see the other side; why are you yelling at us?”
“I DIDN’T ASK TO BE BORN A CIRCLE, OMG. I’VE HAD TO WORK HARD ALL MY LIFE TOO. YOU’RE JUST BEING BIGOTED AGAINST ME BECAUSE OF SOMETHING I CAN’T CONTROL, JUST LIKE EVERYONE IS AGAINST YOU.”
“You are interfering with our project and asking us to comfort you while we’re trying to make progress. Please leave.”
“I’m going to tell everyone about this,” the circle warns. “Nobody will support you now.”
“Apparently nobody ever did,” the triangles sigh, getting back to work.
It’s kind of sad
That we have to draw comics using colorful shapes
To explain systematic inequality to people
don’t be friends with seniors because they will graduate and leave you and it’ll suck
DON’T BE FRIENDS WITH UNDERCLASSMEN BECAUSE YOU WILL HAVE TO LEAVE THEM AND IT WILL SUCK
don’t be friends with seniors if you’re a senior because they’ll go to a different college than you and it will suck
dont make friends
glad we sorted that out guys
Stealing this idea from my bud!
1. I am stronger than I thought. I went into college a very confused first generation college student and I somehow managed to survive a health crisis, financial crisis, and a series of hearings and trials.
2. I NEED help sometimes and that is okay. I am strong, but I am not a superheroine and asking for help is okay.It is okay to let people know about what is happening to you. It’s not something to be ashamed of. Sharing your struggle is not something to be embarrassed about.
3. It’s okay to take a break. Just don’t take too many! I try to get two pages of a paper done and then I play a 2 minute game on my iPad.
4. Miso soup can cure everything
5. It’s important to make friends. I would not have survived this semester if it wasn’t for my friends.
6. Office hours help! GO TO THEM!
7. It is really hard working and going to college. REALLY HARD
8. You need to write a paper more than a few hours in advance for it to be a good paper!
9. You need to have fun sometimes or else everything will be meaningless. Good grades mean nothing if you feel isolated and depressed.
10. Sometimes you will meet people who make you uncomfortable because they are really different from you. That’s okay! Just be polite and kind and you can handle anything.
11. People are mean sometimes and will say things to be spiteful. Trying to stop them is a waste of your time and effort.
12. Meeting celebrities never gets old.
13. You should never date a childhood idol, they never match up to that ideal.
14. Don’t date someone you have nothing to say to! It’s hard
15. If someone asks you out for coffee JUST GO. It’s harmless and you never know, you might meet a nice friend.
16. Sleep is important! I never valued sleep until I nearly died and now I need to get my eight hours or I am grumpy.
17. It’s important to eat regularly. If you don’t eat enough you’ll be cranky and hungry all the time. No extra minute of studying is worth it.
18. READ ALL YOUR PAPERS OUT LOUD BEFORE YOU SEND THEM IN. GOD just DO IT.
19. BACK UP YOUR BACK UPS. AND EVERYTHING. DON’T LET ANYTHING GO UNSAVED. I had the worst experience with a bad lab report.
20. College is just as amazing as everyone says it is. I am so so fortunate to have the chance to go somewhere like Barnard. I hope that my younger cousins get this sense from me and get to experience this too.
I did one of these last year, so I should probably follow through again with the lessons I’ve learned during the year of wise fools. It’s been quite a journey with plenty of downs and just enough ups to keep me afloat. I’m not sure that I’m 100% comfortable where I am, but I’ve learned to focus on the positives to keep myself sane.
10. Economics is hard. Like really hard. And evidently not for me.
9. There is strength in admitting you can’t do everything. This is not weakness, it is wisdom.
8. People have a serious issue with people who speak their mind. Especially when they don’t agree with the opinion expressed. Yet another reason I’m so happy I grew up being exposed to many differing viewpoints and was encouraged to express my own while respectfully acknowledging others.
7. Never listen to dark thoughts at 3am in the morning. There is going to be a day, somewhere along the line, in which you will think, What if I had missed this?
6. Taking a poetry class was simultaneously the scariest and best thing I’ve ever done for myself. And being taught by Mr. Zadie Smith was simultaneously the scariest and best thing I’ve ever done for myself.
5. Believe me when I say that you will find something that sets your heart on fire and you will major in this and your heart will be filled with rainbows and unicorns. #politicalscience
4. Don’t let people get to you and ignore them when they tell you how to live your life. Remember that when you go out into the real world, you will be much better adjusted.
3. Internships are not nearly as daunting as they might seem. And the working world is actually really great. I get to go home at 6? And there’s no homework involved?
3. Fall Out Boy is back and if I fail my finals it’s all because of the epicness that is Save Rock and Roll. PS I’m seeing them at the Barclays Center in September and I AM SO EXCITED.
2. Living in a single is actually the best thing ever. But the loneliness can take a little bit of getting used to.
1. New York is still the best city ever. The end.
Bonus: Sophomore slump is real you guys. It is actually a thing.